Many people fail in life, not for lack of ability or brains or even courage, but simply because they have never organised their energies around a goal.
Preach! Right? Who wants to be throwing their hands up and celebrating their wins this year? I know I do!
Hey ya’ll its mid February and I know some of you have already kind of given up on those resolutions. I don’t even make them anymore, well I never really did because I know I am never serious about them.
What am I serious about? Goals!
Who wants to take a refreshed (my word for 2016!) start and get cracking on what you want to make happen this year?
I am excited for you and I am here to help you make it happen. Yesterday I sent out an email to the list (are you on it? get updates here!) to see who wanted to jump on a call with me to chat for 30 minutes. I only had 3 spots and they ALL got filled in less than 45 minutes.
Seeing you guys take action on your goals gets me all kinds of jazzed. I am so excited to chat with these girls!
But then I got sad because my inbox was flooded with folks who wanted one of the 3 spots but didn’t get there fast enough. When I woke up this morning, I wanted to do something for everyone.
By this afternoon, I was still so excited and opened up some spaces in my calendar for us to have more time to talk. Check it out here to schedule your spot. Use the code SAVE20 to save 20% off, available for a limited time!
That inspired this blog post and worksheet (you can download here)
I challenge you to be S.M.A.R.T.
This may be old news. I certainly am not claiming to have made it up. But setting your goals in a S.M.A.R.T. mindset will pretty much guarantee your success. I challenge you to download this worksheet here for free and put pen to paper.
There is something about getting your messy thoughts out of your brain, using your hand to put them on paper makes them magically come to life. Writing them down makes them real. And real is more attainable.
If you have never heard of the S.M.A.R.T. system, let me break it down for you so you can get cracking.
Last year I did something I NEVER thought I could or would do. I ran my first half marathon! I signed up and started training when my daughter was 4 months old and ran this race when she was 8 months old. I never thought I would do this (and wouldn’t have done it without help and motivation from my friends!). If you have something big you want to do, use the S.M.A.R.T. system to get you to the finish line.
Specific. Get really, really specific about your goal. It should also stretch you a little outside of your comfort zone. What is fun about doing something super easy? Challenge yourself!
What do I mean? Instead of saying, I want to lose some weight this year and get in shape….Try saying I want to complete a half marathon this year. Take it even further, pick a race and sign up. Registering for races isn’t cheap and find that when I put money on the line for anything I am more likely to stick it out.
Measureable. You have to be able to measure it so you know that it is complete. It should also be meaningful and motivational to you. Why do you want to do this? For me, running this race was something I wanted to do for myself and also to show my daughter that you can do anything! I was totally emotional on race day and getting to kiss her sweet face at the finish line motivated me to keep on trucking.
What does that mean? Once you get specific, you can know how to measure it. If you want to finish a half marathon, you will know it is complete when you cross that finish line. Just signing up or picking up your race day packet is not completing the goal! You have to cross the finish line and get your medal!
A. = Achievable
Achievable or attainable. Now I am the first person to cheer you on and say you can do anything girlfriend! But if I am going to get real with myself, and I have to do that from time to time, even though I am a pretty good swimmer, I probably couldn’t/shouldn’t try to go out and swim across the Atlantic Ocean like Jennifer Figge did in 2009. If you want some serious inspo, check out this story about her solo trans-Atlantic swim here.
What is achievable for you? If you are in your first year of booking weddings as a makeup artist, maybe you want to book 10-15 weddings this year. Maybe you do more and next year your goal is 20+. You want to be able to achieve this goal but (back to the S) have it stretch you just enough so that you feel challenged. It won’t feel as good if you make it too easy on yourself!
R. = Reason/Result
This is your WHY! When I signed up, trained for and completed the half marathon last year my daughter was my WHY. She was born in March 2015 and ya’ll she is an amazing and straight up magical creature. A true star and independent woman from the first day of her life, I can tell that she was given to me to keep me on my toes.
Why was she my why? Well, I wanted to do it for myself. It was a good way for me to stay on track to losing the baby weight and physical activity keeps me sane. I was able to do some of my training runs with her in the stroller and I did my longer runs every week with my team so that gave me some much needed alone time.
I feel like doing this made me a better mom. It forced me to take care of myself (moms are the worst at making themselves a priority!) which made me better able to take care of my family. Most of all, I wanted her to see that she could do anything. Especially with a great support system and plan in place.
This sweet face is totally what kept me going! She is my why!
T. = Timely
In order to be successful, you need to give yourself the time to make it happen. But not too much time or it will never happen! You probably can’t wake up tomorrow and build your own website in an hour, if you have no experience. But if you gave yourself 3 years to get your website up and running, you would probably drag your feet and no get much done because it doesn’t feel urgent.
Set that deadline! And make an appointment in your calendar to make your action steps a priority. Our group (#prettytoughmothers on Instagram) trained for this race over the course of 3 months. For two of us, we had never run more than 2 miles without stopping, so the fact we were able to work our way up to 12 nonstop miles in 12 weeks together was impressive. Every Saturday or Sunday, we met up in our neighborhood and did a little more each week than had done the week before.
We stayed together and when one of us wanted to quit, we encouraged the other to keep going. Between the three of us, we had 7 smalls kids from 8 months to 6 years old! There were days that we did these long runs on no sleep and after a long week of being everything to everyone in our houses. And don’t even get me started on having to get up an hour early to pump or nurse before we ran. Running 10 miles when you are breastfeeding is a special kind of challenge for sure!
Can you tell how much I am struggling here? This is around the 10th mile and I had gotten separated from my teammate for a little while. I was struggling! Not going to lie, I shed a few tears and totally thought about quitting (but my phone was dead so I couldn’t call anyone to come pick me up!) but I connected to my WHY and caught back up to her. I was so thankful for my team and all they had done to encourage each other and keep us all going!
That brings me to another important part of setting big goals. Finding your support system. Some people call it your tribe/squad/crew/clique/mastermind, but whatever it is, you have to know you has your back. I knew throughout that entire training process that we would always be there for each other and that kept me going.
Who is on your team? Find some support and accountability. If you don’t have it, let me know how I can help. We can schedule some time to talk here! With the rebrand in April, I am going to be releasing some new ways that I can support you. I am not offering the group workshops and training at this time but you can buy the guide on the shop page or snag a coaching session (sometimes they are free if you sign up in time!).
And remember to celebrate along the way! You are doing great.
xoxo #prettytoughmothers + #sloanejolie
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